Not Intended for Cult Leaders

 What do you want to be when you grow up?

When my oldest granddaughter, Kallie, was wrapping up kindergarten she took part in an annual tradition of surveying the class.  Each spring the teacher would ask every child that was to be promoted to the first grade, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”  On graduation night they read the responses of the children: “I want to be a teacher” or “I want to be a policeman.”  Some said nurse, doctor, veterinarian, etc.  It was adorable to see a snaggle toothed five-year-old walk across the stage in a miniature white satin robe trying to balance the matching hat on her head.  Their future aspirations were tossed into the air like a tassel and cap.  It was a milestone in life for the parent and children.  The parents were so proud.  I can only assume it was a relief for the teachers. 

I don’t remember having the forethought to ask myself this question when I was graduating from kindergarten.  I don’t remember my kindergarten teacher, Mrs. Ruth Bristow, asking us in any formal manner but if she reads this maybe she will let me know.  I remember my sister always wanted to be a teacher or perhaps I just thought she wanted to be a teacher because she made me play school all the time.  I never wanted to be a teacher; that much I remember.  I don’t remember ever wanting to be a doctor or a lawyer or a nurse or an astronaut or a fireman or a cowboy.  Perhaps I didn’t have that type of ambition or maybe I never thought beyond the moment. 

In high school my classmates declared their intentions and decided on courses to study or paths to follow.  Even though I took college classes between my junior and senior years of high school I still had no idea what degree or life I would pursue.  Still the one thing I knew was that I did not want to teach.  At one time, like a lot of high school kids I could envision myself coaching high school basketball but I just couldn’t wrap my mind around the classroom or the students or the lockers or the grades or the courses or test or the students.  I know I said students twice.  I thought it deserved repeating. 

Just after high school graduation a best friend and classmate had knee surgery.  I remember helping her mother to get her in and out of her Pontiac Grand Am that summer.  Her mother told me that I should look at nursing because I was helpful with my friend. It was a kind complement but it didn’t suit me.

Finally just before the fall semester started I decided! I will not major in Psychology or Art (choices I had considered) but I will take the classes that my friend was taking.  Apparently, I wanted to be whatever she wanted to be.  Together we registered for our first semester of classes at Panola Junior College.  We took the usual basics plus ‘Math for Elementary School Teachers’.   (Later in life I will write the pantyhose story from this class.) 

For now, I will just say that 2-3 years in the future this plan was derailed and I was back to square one.  With student loan debt and a college catalogue in my lap. I flipped pages looking for the degree that would allow me to use all the science classes that I had taken in preparing to teach grade schoolers.  I was not alone as this unfolded.  That guy I live with was knee deep in a plan to be an engineer as his father had suggested from his early years.  

 

The questions that I cannot answer for me or you:

Questions ONE:  Do you look at your future as who/what you want to BE or what you want to DO?  I do not intend to declare one of these as right and the other wrong.  I don’t even have an answer.  I do see a difference though. 

Kallie’s response to the question was not in the format of what do you want to be but she declared, “I want to work at Sonic”.   She did not say “I want to be a sock hop”.  She said that she wanted to work at Sonic.  It was very cute and the girl loves a slushy.  We still give her grief about this. 

Unless you aspire to be a cult leader or serial killer few occupations equal who you are.  I realize that a doctor is a doctor and a teacher is a teacher for twenty-four hours every day but does that equal who they are or more likely what they do? 

 Question TWO:  More importantly, does what you do as an occupation determine who you are as a human? Cult leaders and serial killers need not answer.  Most of us know better than to answer yes to this. In my career, not as a teacher or a nurse, I have spent a lot of time in a hospital environment.  There’s a vast difference in the education, responsibility and daily payable tasks of the neurosurgeon and the admissions clerk. 

This is the part of the blog that I don’t like. The few sentences that I add that sound preachy and self-righteous. The part where you say, duh, I knew that 978 words ago.  I only preach through this to bring out one point and that is this: Remove “just” from your occupational title.  I am always frustrated with people that say, I am just a clerk or I am just a phlebotomist.  You will never hear a space cowboy say I am just an astronaut. You will never hear a neurosurgeon say I just operate on the brain.  And the one that needs to be banished from all declarations of self, “I am just a stay at home mom”. Its that one word, just, that clouds the line between who you are and what you do.   Be who God intended for you to be regardless of what you do.